Questioning Everything

Question:

How would you react if you were to learn that your mate had had a lover of the same sex before you knew each other?


Answer:

I would be hurt that they did not trust me enough to tell me this sooner, but the knowledge would have no impact on how I felt about them and our relationship.  I don't view same-sex partnering or relationships as anything "bad" or "negative".   I would view it as any other relationship they've had.  As long as I do not need to worry about them cheating on me, with a man or a woman, then I'm okay. 

As a  matter of fact, I usually tell my partners that they are allowed to have sexual relations with another man.  LOL.  It is usually viewed as humorous, but I'm there is an element of truth to it.  If they are sexually attracted to another man, there is no competition there for me.  That is something I cannot give them.  As long as they take the necessary precautions to assure that I am not going to be harmed (ie: STDs), then go for it.  Just make sure I know about it.  Heck, we can just invite him along.  The only time it will bother me is if they decided to leave me for him.  However, again, that is something that I cannot provide, and if that is what they want in life, then who am I to stand in the way of that?




(The Book of Questions by Gregory Stock)